The experience husbands feel when going through an IVF cycle varies depending in large part on how involved they get. Not only will it help relieve much of the stress for your wife and your relationship the more involved you are but you will feel more invested in it and more in control over the outcome. Many husbands pride themselves in their new found skill with mixing hormonal medications and administering injections for their wives. It helps many men who are used to caring for their wife to be in control of administering the medication for them. Successful IVF becomes something they play a very active role in and relate better to the experience, their wife and the resulting baby. Despite your lack of prior experience, most people can learn to prepare and administer the medication. Whether it is the feeling of “playing doctor” or the knowledge that you are contributing significantly in the process and supporting your wife, most men relate that giving their wives the injections was a positive experience for them and for their relationship.
Along the same line of thinking, accompanying your wife at the time of embryo transfer can be most rewarding. This can be a highly emotional procedure. Your embryo/s is being placed in the womb and at least in that moment many women feel as if they are pregnant. Life may be starting here and it is wonderful to share this moment with your wife. Perhaps you may keep the Petri dish as a keepsake as the “baby’s first crib”. It is an experience the two of you are not likely to forget as your first time together as a family. I strongly recommend that you don those scrubs, hat and booties and join your wife as the physician transfers the embryos from the dish into her womb. Nine months later do the same at delivery for memories that last a lifetime.